Friday, April 24, 2009

My MIL

Life can change so quickly. When we left Utah on April 10th we were optimistic--as I wrote in my post the doctors thought they could do great things with the radiation and low-dose chemotherapy. Well, after less than a week of chemo, my MIL was still in severe pain. And last Sunday while I was in Church, I checked my phone and noticed my SIL had called twice. I called her back and she said they had been trying to reach Allan--It happened to be our Ward Conference so my hubby was attending our Ward. Gerry said Mom had taken a turn for the worse. Allan came out of a meeting and I handed him the phone. Allan decided to get on a plane the next morning and has been here since then. I arrived late last night. Her breathing is very labored and I her little heart seems to be pumping like crazy.

I have had the opportunity to visit with all of our children on the phone and am so grateful for the Plan of Salvation . Although each of them will miss her so much, they know they will see her again.

Norma is an amazing woman and has been such a blessing in our lives. I could have never asked for a better mother-in-law. She has welcomed me into her life as another daughter. So many memories of this remarkable woman, but let me share a few from the last few years.

Not many women (at 88 years old) are out showing their great grandchildren how to play baseball

Or even better--go parasailing at 90.


She's always tried to be there on special days for her children and grandchildren



We were very happy to get this 5 generation picture with her mom who died at 99.

Kyle was born very early Saturday, April 13th. Allan's parents flew in that afternoon. The next day was fast Sunday so I left the hospital early Sunday morning so we could have Kyle blessed and have his parents there. It was a fantastic day.

She and Bev made a trip to the Sacramento area when Drew was born in April 2005.


Neal and Macy's wedding


Stephen and Daphne and family at the Hawaii temple


A very special day at the Mt. Timp temple--December 2000.

Neal's BYU Graduation--April 2004


Heidi's Grad from BYU--April 2008




Addendum: my MIL passed away tonight at 7:15 Utah time.

34 comments:

Tonya said...

Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry. I will be thinking of you and your sweet family and praying for the peace that only our Heavenly Father can bring. Love you.

aurora said...

I am so sorry, Yvonne. She seems like an amazing lady!
I am so glad that you posted the picture of her parasailing... I remember it from when you posted your Hawaii trip, and I was just as amazed this time as I was then.
I am so glad for all of the memories that you have together. ♥♥

Tiffany said...

Oh, honey, I am so sorry. She must have been one amazing, wonderful person. What a blessing it is to know what we know and the peace it brings.
Sending you my love, many hugs and prayers.

Somebody Loved said...

My prayers are with your family.

ToOdLeS.ShEiLa

ps. I am just finishing a letter to my friend Lenore... she just turned 90. I know her time on earth is limited... so sorry. What an amazing Mother you all have.

glittersmama said...

I'm sorry for your loss. It looks like she was an amazing woman.

Ashley said...

That picture of her parasailing will be a great memory. Thinking and praying for you and your family.

Amanda said...

Thanks for posting this.

Sheri said...

Yvonne and Allan - so sorry for your loss. It is always hard for those of us left here no matter when it happens. She sounds like an amazing lady. I always think of the quote "when someone we love becomes a memory, those memories become a treasure" she gave you all some great memories to cherish and live by. Much love and my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Families truly are forever!

Chel said...

Those pictures are wonderful. You are truly blessed to have known her and loved her and learned from her. You have amazing memories to hold on to until you see her again.

Hugs to you - you and your family will be in my prayers.

Melissa said...

Yvonne - I am so sorry. She sounds like such an amazing person. What a blessing to have her in your life and to have the knowledge that she is STILL in your life - forever.
You and your family will be in my prayers... hugs!

Nancy Face said...

Oh, I am so sorry. What a wonderful and outstanding woman! I'm so glad you were blessed with such a sweet mother-in-law. I'm so glad you and Allan could both be there with her. Here's a big hug from me.
(((((YVONNE)))))

Millie said...

Yvonne, hugs to you and your family. I'm sorry for your loss.

What a beautiful, sweet, inspiring lady. It was neat to read about her and to share your memories.

Klin said...

My deepest condolences to your family. It's hard to say see you later to such an amazing person.

I am grateful she is no longer suffering. I've witnessed that first hand and it tears me up inside.

Hugs to you and your family.

Do you need anything? I'm right here close.

Liam's Mom said...

What a wonderful woman! She was an amazing influence on all of you, I can see that! I am sorry for your loss. You are right about the plan of Salvation. It's a peaceful comfort in a time like this. My sympathy to you and your family.

Amber said...

OH no. I was not expecting that ending to such a wonderful tribute to your MIL. I am soooo sorry for your family but what a full life she has led and such a legacy she has left behind! Hugs for your family!

Natalie said...

Oh my dear Yvonne, I'm so sorry. It is so hard to lose those we love. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Your mother-in-law was an awesome woman. It's so great that you will have such wonderful memories of her. How great it is that we have the gospel and know that you will be together again one day.
Lots of love and hugs.

Tonya said...

I'm so sorry Yvonne. It's never easy to loose someone we love. Your pictures portray a woman full of love and adventure.

Heffalump said...

I'm sorry for your loss and so very happy to know that YOU know that this loss is only temporary. What a fine example your Mother in Law set for so many people. Thank you for sharing it with us!

Valerie said...

This was a beautiful tribute and a wonderful way to show us all what a wonderful woman your Mother In Law is.
I, too, offer my condolences to you and your family. I will pray that you will all have the comfort you need to make it through this trying time.
♥♥♥♥

txmommy said...

I'm sorry to for your loss.
It's sounds like she was a wonderful woman who lived a wonderful, full life.

I love all the pictures of her little old grandma days and being there and doing such fun things!

carolyne b said...

Wow your MIL sounds like a one in a million mom we'd all like to have had at one time or another. When reading your post about all the places and things she had done, it put a smile on my face. When I got to the bottom and you mentioned she had past away it broke my heart. Knowing how close you were. Thank goodness for the plan of salvation. Give my best to Allen and we have you in our prayers.

sweetpea said...

She sounds like an amazing woman--my prayers are with your family. ((((hugs)))

Romy said...

Thanks for posting this wonderful and loving tribute to your Mother-in-law! I hope that you and your family will be able to take comfort in your memories of all of the wonderful times you were together! Thank goodness for the gospel and that we know families are forever!

I love you guys, and you are in my prayers!

Whitney said...

I'm so sorry :( She sounds like she was an amazing woman! I'm so impressed that she could and would get out and be there for her family so many times. I hope I can be that amazing, too!!!
You're in my thoughts :)

PJ said...

A wonderful, beloved woman. My prayers are with you and your family:)

Alice Wills Gold said...

So sorry to hear of your loss....but what a gain on the other side...wonder if they've got parasails there? :)

Amanda said...

Yvonne, I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Like you said, what a great blessing the knowledge of the plan of salvation is during these times. (((((HUGS))))) to you and your family.

Corrine said...

oh Yvonne, I am so sorry for your loss, but so grateful you have such sweet and tender memories of her. Prayers are with you and Allan and your family as you are going through this sad time.

annie said...

I'm praying for you and Allan, for comfort during this time of loss.

NOBODY said...

What a beautiful woman, and it looks like she never lost sight of the important things. And parasailing at 90! I love that.

I am sorry for your family's loss. It is evident in just these few things you've shared, she was a wonderful woman.

JustRandi said...

I'm so sorry Yvonne. It sounds like she was an amazing woman.

And speaking of amazing, did I read correctly that you checked out of the hospital early to go to CHURCH the day after you gave birth??

If I wasn't impressed before, I'm totally floored now.

Suzanne said...

Yvonne, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother in law. It sounds like she was a wonderful woman, so involved with family and your important events. How lucky you were all able to spend time together in Hawaii last year! My prayers will be with both you and Allan! ***hugs***

Holly said...

I'm so sorry for you and Allan. While the gospel gives us peace, and the knowledge of eternal families is comforting, it doesn't completely take away the pain of missing someone you love. She sounds like an amazing woman.

Doran & Jody said...

So sorry for your loss.