Like many of you I love reading
NieNie. She always makes me think but her last post really has me remembering.
Maybe it is because I know pretty soon the house will be empty, but I'm so grateful for memories. Fortunately for me many memories have been captured in photographs. It's funny Allan and I will talk about experiences and he will look at me and say, "How in the world do you remember that?" Usually, but not always, it's because I have a photo. While in Utah I was talking with Allan and Neal about an experience with Heidi and Chris at a Burger King. When I told Neal I remembered exactly when it was (and it has been over 22 years), he asked
how I remembered--I told him no photo involved, just burned in my brain ; )
I remember so vividly when each of my 4 children were placed into my arms. It's been 39 years since the doctor put Stephen in my arms, and I remember it like it was yesterday. The doctor looked at me and said, "So, mom, what are you going to do now!" When Heidi was born almost 25 years ago, the doctor held her up and said, "Look Mom, no more nausea." Richard was a little concerned when Brent was born. But having Richard deliver Brent was one of the most spiritual experiences I have had, until Allan asked if he could stitch me up. Fortunately, Richard said, "No." After such a hard pregnancy with Kyle, I know Dr. P and I were very grateful when he was safely here. We had a tough time coming up with a name--after all we only had 9 months to think about it. It still seems impossible that 18 years have really passed since Kyle was born. (In fact, I got a note on FB from a friend who hasn't seen Kyle for years and said, "How is it possible that Kyle is going to BYU in the fall--he's still in diapers isn't he???"
As well, I remember when the 3 I didn't give birth to were placed into my heart. I had the privilege of being in the same Ward with them and watching them grow up. I watched Neal with wonder and amazement--as he would speak in Church and bless and pass the sacrament. I had the privilege of working with Nancy in Young Women. I taught Wendy in Sunday School and was there when she was baptized. It was so great to have the three of them and Stephen in the temple when Allan and I were sealed.
It has been an interesting journey thus far. I love that I have had the privilege of watching all of these children grow up. So often I think about my mom and how much she missed--I know I've talked about this before, but it just helps me to remember how blessed I am that I have seen children graduate from high school, college, marry, have children, have grandchildren and even a great grandchild, most of which my mom didn't see. (Yes, she did see 2 of her 6 children graduate from high school, but that is all.) But she didn't see moments like this:
Be at the hospital to hold a brand new grandson

Celebrating the graduation of her oldest grandson surrounded by some of her children and grandchildren

Attend the blessing of a new grandson and again be surrounded by family.

Be there to see her youngest graduate from high school. (My youngest sister was 8 when my dad died, and 9 when my mom died. She did see me get to junior high school) I was also blessed a few weeks after Kyle's graduation to see him receive the MP--no, my mom was not a member of The Church, but I know her heart would have been as filled with joy as mine was at that moment)

I do agree with "Barbara"--"Memories, may be beautiful and yet, What's too painful to remember, We simply choose to forget. So it's the laughter, we remember..." Unfortunately, I do have some of those painful memories, but they don't have the sting they did those many years ago. I try to remember only enough to help me from making the same mistakes again ; )
I look forward to making memories of the events that lie ahead--baptisms, graduations, missions, weddings, births, etc. With Allan by my side, it will continue to be a journey filled with wonderful memories.
Sidenote: Since the number of comments on my last post are so low, I feel it's only fair to my friend
Connie, who is having a giveaway on her blog to remind you again to go and visit her blog to participate in her giveaway.