Thursday, January 3, 2008

Accountability List

I was going to title this post "Resolutions" but decided when I put something on my blog, it really makes a difference. Therefore, I changed the title. (It worked so well to be accountable with the chocolate and the exercising, so I will try it with this)

Melissa had a great post about changes. We've all had the lessons in Relief Society about goals--heck, I've even taught one or two of those lessons. But, since I will be having my 58th birthday this month, it's time I took a different approach.

1) Lose weight--27 pounds to be exact. Every year I set a goal to lose weight, and since I'm doing it again this year, I'd say it hasn't worked very well ; ) This is my year!!!

2) Keep a prayer journal: I've tried to make my prayers go beyond the ceiling. I think if I record what I'm going to pray about in the morning and then at night record what happened during the day it will help me follow Elder Eyring's counsel to see the hand of the Lord daily.

3) Count my blessings daily: This goes along with #2, but I know I need to be more grateful.

4) Practice the piano 20 minutes a day: What's the point of paying for those lessons if i'm not going to practice.

5) Do weekly meal plans. Make sure to find more low-salt recipes for Allan, and stop nagging him about not using too much salt.

Now these last two are things I need to work on for my mental stability. They are tough to monitor, but I want to work on doing better at these two:

6) Let things go: I have a very bad habit of holding on to hurts, and I need to let them go. Also, being the control freak that I am, I want to fix EVERYONE'S problems because goodness knows I know what will make everyone happy--so I need to let people solve their own problems.

7) Recognize that everyone is different and not everyone is going to do things the way I think they should: I realize that my way isn't the only way, but I guess I always assume everyone looks at things the way I do--I know that's stupid and it's a BIG PROBLEM of mine!!! I return phone calls, I answer e-mails, but not everyone does. I need to lighten up (I guess in more ways than just those mentioned in #1 ; )

Believe me the list could go on, but I think I will start with these.

Wish me luck...I'll need it!!!


txmommy said...

I want to lose 60lbs...but I am afraid to write it on my blog. I'm great at losing and finding the same 5-10 lbs over and over. I am sure I lost 60 last year...but only 5 at a time and they came back and brought friends. You are brave. GOod luck on all your goals.

Neal said...

I vote for 6 & 7 as the priorities, and will try to help you with those as much as I can.

JustRandi said...

I love reading other people's goals. It's really inspiring. I especially like it when people get creative. I mean, everyone wants to lose weight, but how many people actually think to keep a prayer journal, or practice the piano?
Great job! I'll support you however I can!

Holly said...

I think those are awesome goals. Elder Eyring's talk was so good and I love the prayer journal idea. I need to be better at recognizing the Lord's hand in my life.

Good luck! You're going to do just fine!

annie said...

Great list Yvonne! I am getting ready to post mine too!

Doing the menu plan mondays has really helped me keep on track with our meals. It has seriously reduced the amount of carryout meals we have.

Melissa said...

I too struggle with #6 and #7... I think that they kind of go hand in hand for me... everyone is different, so they think different, which means that upon occassion, feathers will get ruffled :)
Good luck with your goals! This is YOUR year!! :D

Thorny Tree Lady said...

This is a fantastic list. Thanks for the reminder of Elder Eyring's talk...just what I needed to hear.

BTW: My nephew is serving in the mission you live in...I wonder if you've met him!

Nancy Face said...

27 pounds is a lot...but it's possible! Six years ago I made a goal to lose 40 pounds, because I felt crummy, and I was worried about becoming diabetic like my younger brother did because of his weight. I was able to do it through careful diet and lots of exercise. My advice: cut out sugar completely, and fruit will begin to taste better and sweeter...and the cravings will decrease!

I love your idea of keeping a prayer journal and counting your blessings daily! I actually love your entire list...2008 should be a great year for you! :)

(Psst...I am a control freak too!)

Tonya said...

Sounds like a very good plan to me. The last two are things that I struggle with as well. I know you'll do well with these but I'll wish you GOOD LUCK anyone :o)

marlajayne said...

Great list. Like some other commentors, I too like 6 and 7 because they're the ones I need to work on the most. About 6, I have a tendency (don't all mothers?) who stress and fret about their children and their choices, safety, future, and so on. Whenever I verbalize a concern, this one particular friend of mine ALWAYS says, "Haven't you turned your children over to God?"

About 7, it's hard, even for me who's been teaching psychology and human relations for more years than I want to think about. On a daily basis, whenever I find myself getting frustrated with someone about behavior, I have to stop and say, "But she (or he) isn't you!" I've found that all I can do is to influence (if I'm lucky) but not control another human being.

Tori :) said...

Great goals Yvonne!! I so need to make a list- and stick with it. I'll add "Make a list" to my list of things to do. :)
Happy 2008!

MAGIRK said...

A wonderful list. You're smart to consider both your physical and spiritual needs.

If you don't mind, I'll join you on #'s 6 & 7. Especially, I allow things to hurt me and take them personally, when it really isn't to anyone's benefit - certainly not mine. But I'm not making any 'resolutions' just yet (refer to my Jan 4 post about birthdays).

Good luck! I'm sure the year will be wonderful for you, with these good plans in mind. :-)

Lauren said...

Those are excellent goals! I think I will write down what I am grateful everyday, thank you for reminding me of that!

PJ said...

Very good list! I lost 47lbs after my last baby, and it felt GREAT! I've gained close to 20lbs back, and well...that felt (tasted) great too.
I've had a good week so far, and haven't cheated;)

Yep.yep. on counting blessings daily.

I have to work through holding hurts too. I give myself permission to hold them for 24 hours, after that I try and get on with my life!

Great list. Great lady!

Mrs. Monkey said...

As a recovering control freak and fixer of other's problems I use the book called, "I don't have to make everything all better" to get me through relapses. I also try to remind myself that others will not be as strong as me if they don't struggle like I did.

You have a great list. I am not brave enough to say how much weight I need to lose. I'm cheering you on.

*Go Yvonne. Go girl*

Chel said...

Wow.. I could have typed #7 about me!! When you figure out a way to "fix" that, let me know!

You are so great! If anyone can achieve the things they are being held accountable for.. it's you!

BTW, I need your email addy!

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Corrine said...

amazing goals, a journal in the morning and evening that is amazing,,,and you are probably wondering "who the heck is this.." i'm a friend of Randi's that stumbled about your post...anyway I saw your picture and that you are a grandmother and I just have a hard time believing your old enough to have grandkids!

Yvonne said...

(I edited this comment because I had to take something out.)

I wanted to thank all of you for your support. YOU GUYS ARE GREAT!!!

txmommy: I'm with you on the losing and gaining thing--which is so bad for our health ; ( Thanks.

neal: I knew you would want me to work on those.
You know that I appreciate your help.

justrandi: I loved reading your "plan" for making improvements. You are always so supportive and I appreciate it so much.

holly: Thanks so much. It always feel so good when I stop and see the Lord's hand in my life.

annie: I will look for your list. I will also check your menu plans. I know that if I have a plan it will help with so many things--time, money, and calories.

melissa: Always good to know we are not alone. Thanks.

thornytreelady: Thanks for visiting and commenting. Regarding your nephew, we have 6 wards in the city, and if he's in any of those I've probably met him. I'd love to know.

nancyface: I think your weight loss is so great. You are such an inspiration--I wish I was there to run with you everyday. You KNOW how much I love sweets, so it's going to be tough, but I am determined. I'm getting back to exercising again. (You were such a help to me with my exercising before and I really appreciated it)


tonya: Thanks--I'm going to work hard.

marlajayne: Thanks for visiting and commenting. I try very hard to turn things over to the Lord--He knows so much better than I do, and I know he's mindful of them. You're so right, all we can do is influence. I'm going to work at all of this.

tori: Thanks so much. I'll watch for your list ; )

magirk: Thanks. You are so right--it doesn't benefit anyone when we take things personally. I keep telling myself, "It isn't all about you." I'll watch for your list--in a few weeks ; )

lauren: Thanks--You seem to do a great job of being grateful ; )

pj: Good for you on losing 47 pounds. That's fantastic that you haven't cheated this week. Wow, if I could just let a hurt bother me for 24 hours I'd be making progress!!!

You are so sweet.

mrsmonkey: Great advice! (Where do I get that book????) I know struggles makes us all stronger. Thanks for your support.

chel: After I conquer #7, I'll let you know--I'm sure I'll blog all about it!!! Thanks for your support.

corrine: the prayer journal is working great--it's just making me so much more aware.

Ha, about the grandmother comment. Maybe you just can't see the wrinkles and the grey hair. I appreciate your kindness, though ; )

Blackeyedsue said...

I like the accountabilty list MUCH better than "resolutions". Maybe that is what I will have to do soon.